Is it really ever ok to discipline someone elses kid?
Disciplining other people’s children can be awkward.
What if you observe a child misbehaving, and their parent is observing the same behavior, but doing nothing about it? How should you react?
Don’t allow it to continue. You could say, “In our house we…” and review the rule. You could also do the two-rule, that is, describe your house rules, and also add “You two look like you need a break from one another.”*
This was advise I read online somewhere this past week. It was in an article with a doctor who specialized in childrens behavior.
I am not that calm of a person with my own kids, but I have the patience of a soon to be saint when dealing with others kids. But even I have my limits. In our home.
In our home, when friends are over, if my child misbehaves I deal with it. In front of their friend(s). It doesn't bother me. I'm have been known to send kids home because my own child was bad or mean.
I am also known for sending kids home after they misbehave or are horrid at our home. Once your kids are in my yard or my home, I feel I should be able to discipline them as I see fit. I may separate them from my kids, but I will also ban them from inside for a bit. I might send them home before I treat them like I do my own. I wont spank them or swear at them but I will use a tone in my voice that can make then quiver!
I'm ok with another parent discipline my kids. Not spank them or anything but put them in a time out or send them home. I'm not gonna blow up with anger. I'll normally say "Thanks!" I have gotten calls at home from other moms telling my what my child(ren) had been doing and I've thanked them and made sure that behavior stopped and my kids have had to apologize.
That's my opinion.
When I was growing up, every parent in my neighborhood worked together to make sure we all behaved. Every parent had every other parents phone number and more than once my parents got a call from another parent ratting me out! Once I even heard a mom yell to my friend "Wait till you get home Kelly-Ann! I've talked to your mom already!"
So here's my question:
In this day and age is it really ever ok to discipline someone elses kid?