August 1, 2015

A Sex and the City Type Post with yes, a question! I want your comments!


You know how in Sex and the City, Carrie Bradshaw would always end her commentary in the beginning with a question? 
Well this is one of those kind of posts.

And yes, I want your comments. If you leave one, leave your email address and I may just pick one winner from the comments to receive a surprise box from me!

People say marriage is 50-50. I dont think its true. Divorce tends to be 50-50. Marriage should be 100% - 100%. Both must give it their all to make it work. In my opinion if one gives more than the other, it means one is taking more and giving less in the relationship. again my opinion. 

When I see people put friendships above their significant other, I have seen alot of conflict. I have done that myself and have suffered the fallout for years, I still do. I will never put a friend above my spouse ever again! 

I have seen men be friends with women even after their wives have told them it makes them uncomfortable for them to be friends. My opinion, if your wife has a problem with it, you should be respectful to their feelings and vice versa!

So my question is:

"Could you ever forgive your spouse/partner for putting a friendship with the opposite sex before your feelings?"

Leave your answer/comment below in the comments! Thanks!



12 comments:

  1. I definitely agree that marriage is 100/100 - too many people are messing up, thinking it's the other. Now as for my husband putting a friendship before our marriage, NO!! I would not accept that. I wouldn't be against him being friends with someone, but nobody other than God should come before our marriage. :)

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  2. I completely agree with you that marriage has to be 100-100. However, there are plenty of times when one is carrying the weight while the other one is leaning on that spouse.

    To answer your question, I would as long as she was also my friend and they BOTH came to me about this situation and explain to me WHY he felt it was necessary to do it. There's no way that a spouse can ALWAYS be first in life. I am a firm believer of God, then my husband and then everyone else, but there are times when a spouse is wrong or needs to be put on the side burner.

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  3. I might be able to forgive my husband for putting a friendship with the opposite sex before my feelings, but it would take a long time to forget. I think I should be the woman he is best friends with. If I told him I didn't feel comfortable with a friendship he had, I'd hope he would respect it and understand how I feel.

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  4. You are so right when you said marriage should be 100 - 100. It takes two and you should both work for it. As for your question, NO. It should be God first as we made Him the center of our marriage and our family, before others.

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  5. I love this post, totally agree that marriage should be 100 -100!

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  6. This is a great post and poses a great question. I think if it was the first offense on my spouses part, I probably would forgive them. But if it became a habit that didn't stop, then there would be a really big problem.

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  7. Good discussion! Everyone needs to give their all, all the time!

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  8. Yes, I could forgive for that, but there's something wrong if a third party is the priority, so it needs addressing.

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  9. of course not, better that he marry his friend, if that will be the case

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  10. I have nothing against my sweetie being friends with the opposite sex, but if that friend comes before me – oh no – there are some problems there.Just like I know he would not appreciate it on the receiving end. I've never experienced anything like that before, and can only imagine (from what I see on TV/movies) how frustrating it can be to deal with something like that. Anyhow, I can certainly forgive (depending on the severity of the issue), but there will definitely be a long talk about it.

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  11. Just loved this post. I very much agree with you that Marriage should be 100 at both ends. With my husband I have always been able to express when I feel uneasy with a relationship he has.

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  12. I actually had this happen with my husband and I when we were dating. He was friends with another girl and she just become super possessive over him. Finally, I ended it with him. He came crawling back a few days later. Could I forgive him? Well, I obviously did but it took awhile and I still haven't forgotten. Marriage is work, it isn't easy and it isn't cut and dry.

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